“And So There Must Come an End” – The Final Charlotte Kitley Blog Post

In this unfair battle with cancer, I often feel like we’re battling some relentless, unstoppable, demonically powerful foe who has weapons we don’t understand let alone are able to defeat.

It’s a villain that’s dragged too many wonderful people into their grave before their time. And when that time comes, I hope I have the grace and fortitude and courage to face that defeat like Charlotte Kitley. Here is a link to the final post from her blog entitled “Living life with love, laughter and Stage 4 Bowel Cancer”: http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/charlotte-kitley/bowel-cancer-charlotte-kitley_b_5836238.html

There’s one paragraph from that post that is so poignant and sorrowful and well-written I just have to share it with you:

“As you read this, I will no longer be here. Rich will be trying to put one foot in front of the other, to get by, a day at a time, knowing I will no longer awake next to him. He will see me in the luxury of a dream, but in the harsh morning sun, the bed will be empty. He will get two cups from the cupboard, but realise there is only one coffee to make. Lucy will need someone to reach for her hairband box, but there won't be anyone to plait her hair. Danny will have lost one of his Lego policeman, but no one will know exactly which one it is or where to look. You will look for the latest update on the blog. There won't be one, this is the final chapter.”

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My Husband’s Tumor - “I’ve seen the best in people and the worst in people”

This is a great and tantalizing quote from a great blog entitled “My Husband’s Tumor” - http://myhusbandstumor.com/

Here’s a lengthy quote from her most recent posting:

“Through the past three years, I’ve seen the best in people and the worst in people, and it’s all been a powerful mirror for self reflection.

For too long, I spent my energy on what wasn’t. On what could have or should have been, rather than what simply was. I focused immeasurable amounts of emotional energy on the wrong people and the wrong situations, assuming intent in others and defiantly asserting my own absolute correctness in every imaginary iteration of any situation.

If I was unhappy or frustrated or angry, it was certainly not my fault. No, not at all. There were six degrees of separation between me and my problems, and they all connected to someone else, something else. But definitely not me. 

People are kind, so kind it is astonishing. People are also careless and cruel and short-sighted, so much so that it’s astonishing.” 

I hope this makes you want to read more. If you do, be sure to read the page entitled http://myhusbandstumor.com/AaronsTumor

John

PS - I’d nominate her for being a Bad Ass Brain Tumor Blogger, but she just seems too nice and doesn’t swear enough.

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